Somehow men have contorted the game of love into one where they can gain sympathy for being unsuccessful in receiving sex. The so-called “friendzone” is a place where blatant discrimination makes it easy for males to employ guilt on the female gender all because they made a decision to refuse sexual consent.
Underlying the concept of “friendzoning” is the idea that a female friend who rejects her guy friend’s advances is a bad person, and is a bad person in part because she sees her friend as just that; a friend. And all because he has done the unthinkable deed of actually being nice to her.
The assumption of guys claiming to be “friendzoned” is that if they want sex from a girl, she is in some way obligated to return the interest, and reward it.
A Tumblr user said: “What these idiots don’t understand is that girls aren’t living, breathing poker machines that you keep putting happiness tokens into until sex falls out.”
And then the she-devils of the world then go and have sex with men who treat them like absolute shit, because that’s what every women who has ever walked the face of the earth has done, because all women are the same. And when she posts to the internet, complaining, even only slightly, about men, or the man she consented to, she consented to, the self-proclaimed “nice-guy” jumps onto it, whining to the internet about how that girl that had the audacity to turn him, the “nice-guy”, down, because not all men are the same, he is one of the “nice-guys.”
Ah… the fucking nice guy. He’ll sit around and explain, in a bitter and resentful tone, that his penchant for philanthropy makes women view him as not dateable. More often than not, he’s the kind of egotistical dickhead who tells girls with boyfriends how well he’d treat them should they give him a chance. His air He truly believes he’s an undeserving victim of societal norms.
But here’s the reality (as explained in a reddit post):
“She’s not friendzoned you, OP,” ObscenePenguin writes. “You’ve girlfriendzoned her. … Seeing a female friend only as a girlfriend is girlfriendzoning.”
When girls are all, “Ugh, he only wanted sex. He was never there as a friend.” She’s met with ridicule, like, “You should have given him a chance, he was so nice to you.” Etc.
When boys are all, “Ugh, she only wanted to be friends. #TheFriendzoneSucks” He is met with encouragement, like, “Stupid bitch, turning you down.”.
Notice that so often the girl is at fault?
Yeah, it all comes back to the misogynist system that fuels our social practices.
In short, everyone has a right to their own choice, their own selves, and you don’t have the right to guilt someone for exercising this right. No one owes you anything except respect.
Sources:
http://yourfriendshouse.com/uncategorised/the-friendzone-doesnt-exist-dickhead/
http://fozmeadows.tumblr.com/post/20834902215/lamenting-the-friend-zone-or-the-nice-guy-approach
https://feministsatlarge.wordpress.com/2013/01/30/the-friendzone-is-a-sexist-myth/
http://www.reddit.com/r/AskWomen/comments/1izx8v/how_do_you_stop_men_from_girlfriendzoning_you/
http://www.dailydot.com/lifestyle/girlfriendzone-vs-friendzone-meme/
